Sorry

Yesterday, we were out in the car.  Me, Jurgen and Baby Arlo.  

(for Basingstokers)

We were driving towards the Winchester Road roundabout.  We wanted to go B & Q way so were on the inside lane.  A car approached the roundabout on the outside lane.  We both pulled away together.  This driver did try and  cave the side of our car in just to get in front of us but wasn't going fast enough.  We went around the roundabout neck and neck.  We indicated left to pull over to the dual carriageway by B & Q and........

this car continued going right, all the way around the roundabout on the outside nearly caving the side of her own car in with our bull bars.   To avoid a heavy collision Jurgen had no choice but to continue right (not where we wanted to be going) and soon we were heading Morrisons way with absolutely no clue as to why. 

As I was looking at the driver in disbelief at this amazing show of THE most dangerous driving I have ever witnessed.  Do you know what she did?    Did she put her hand up in a show of sorry?  Did she sheepishly look down with shame at the admittance of her shit driving?   Did she buggery..   she actually stuck her fingers up at me.   Lots.  And lots.  She was effing and blinding at ME with this beautiful gesture of finger fury. 

I. Nearly. Had. A. Coronary.

Then I had to refrain with every will that I had not to cave in the side of her car and drive her into the nearest ditch. 

The rage I was experiencing was "red haze" inducing.  

We all make mistakes, right?  We are all human.  I get it.  But when we do make mistakes why on earth can't we just say sorry?

Why is "sorry" the hardest word in the world to say? Admittedly,  I find it difficult.  Its not a word I say easily.  But, if I am wrong I will admit I am.  When an apology is due I will give it, because you just should.

It amazes me how many people don't say it.  How many people saunter through life leaving a trail of destruction behind them and never realise that they are wrong.  Or that a "sorry" would make all the pain go away.

I have always taught my children right from wrong.  I mean you wouldn't think it good parenting if your children regularly used the "f" word in public, right?   But its not considered bad parenting if you do not teach your children to say sorry?

And this is where it should start.  Childhood.  We need to teach our children to have more manners.  To know right from wrong but to be readily able to admit that they are wrong, when they are.

I loathe bad manners.  I loathe those who are not big enough to say "sorry".   And I think its everything that is wrong with society today.

The world would be a nicer place if people were more polite.  Had more acceptance for their faults, and more tolerant of others.   And just because you don't like a person it doesn't mean you are exempt from apologising.  In fact, this is when you should say it more.   I have had loads of crap thrown at me over the years, and never an apology in site.  I have also thrown loads of crap but when I get it wrong an apology is never far behind.

The word "sorry" can dispel anger in a flash.  Its that simple.  When you have someone ranting and raving at you the simple act of saying "sorry" can stop that person dead in their tracks...

That's because not enough people say it.  Not enough people apologise.  And so when someone does, its astounding....

That's not how it should be.  It should be common place for you to say sorry when you are wrong.

Try and remember that, because in my quest to change the world I want people to say sorry a lot more...... oh, and also indicate on mini roundabouts....